November 28,2013
U.S. Thanksgiving

Today is U.S. Thanksgiving and I will be going out for turkey tonight. I missed out on turkey with my own Canadian family in October, so I am looking forward to tonight's feast with several friends. One can never have too many turkey dinners, I say. Or, too many days during the year when we practice thankfulness. So, today, I am grateful for all of my friends – American, Canadian, Mexican and others. I am grateful for the opportunity to share a feast with special friends and for all that is good in my life. I am also grateful for my family.

Happy Thanksgiving!

"Live long and prosper!"

© Carla Weaver 2013


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November 28,2013
Choices

We always have choices. Situations may seem intolerable, or we may feel that we are trapped or that there is no solution to a problem. But, there are always choices – alternative actions or decisions from which we can choose.

It is our limited minds that may not recognize all of the choices, thereby leaving us to feel trapped or hopeless. However, I have often read in 12 step literature, "no situation is really hopeless."

If we can relax and stay calm, pray for guidance, journal, meditate, talk to a trusted friend or family member, keep an open mind, or brainstorm, the alternatives will be presented to us.

"Serenity isn't a matter of chance; it's a matter of choice.
This best of all possible gifts is a tranquil mind. You can't go out and buy it. You have to earn it for yourself…" (Al-Anon Family Groups, p. 35).

Reference:

Al-Anon Family Groups. (2002). Hope for Today, Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc., Virginia Beach, VA.

© Carla Weaver 2013.


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November 26,2013
Everything is Okay

"When you are in love you find yourself looking at everyone with new eyes; you become generous, forgiving, kind-hearted, where before you might have been hard and mean. Inevitably people begin reacting to you in the same way and soon you find yourself living in a loving world that you yourself have created. Or think of the time you were in a bad mood and found yourself becoming irritable, mean, suspicious, even paranoid. The next thing you knew everyone was reacting to you in a negative way and you found yourself living in a hostile world created by your head and your emotions (de Mello, 1992, p. 117)."

Do you see the Universe as a friendly or a dangerous place? This basic outlook affects everything in your life.

I recently spoke with someone who had a near death experience, and he described the feeling of the experience. He said in that moment he came to know that everything is okay, everything always was okay, and that everything always will be okay. This is the nature of the Universe. It is a safe and loving place and if we hold that as our basic outlook, everything is okay. But, if we go about with a negative outlook, then that is what we will experience.

Reference:

de Mello, A. (1992). The Way To Love: The Last Meditations of Anthony de Mello, Image Books/Doubleday, New York.

© Carla Weaver 2013


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November 26,2013
Protecting Our Spirit and Serenity

How do we respond when people are mean or unkind to us or when they are disrespectful or rude? I read on the Internet a few days ago that a person had posed a similar question to a spirit guide through a medium. The medium's answer was to love these rude, unkind or disrespectful people. Continuously love them back with unconditional love. This is similar to what Anthony de Mello wrote about in "The Way to Love."

"Take a look at a rose. Is it possible for the rose to say, 'I shall offer my fragrance to good people and withhold it from bad people?' Or can you imagine a lamp that withholds its rays from a wicked person who seeks to walk in its light? It could only do that by ceasing to be a lamp. And observe how helplessly and indiscriminately a tree gives its shade to everyone, good and bad, young and old, high and low; to animals and humans and every living creature-even to the one who seeks to cut it down (de Mello, 1992, p. 105)."

We must give our love to all….to good and bad…to pleasant and unpleasant…to mean and kind.

But, I believe that we must also take care of ourselves by allowing ourselves to detach from people and situations that are not good for us. When we are in situations that require our constant vigilance to protect our feelings or our serenity, or when we must constantly be setting boundaries and attending to them, then we must do something about the situation to take care of ourselves. If we are spending an inordinate amount of time or energy in maintaining our serenity or enforcing our boundaries or protecting ourselves, then we must take action and remove ourselves from what is essentially a dangerous situation. We do not suggest that someone continue to live with an abusive spouse when in physical danger. Similarly, it is not a good idea to stay in a situation if one is in spiritual danger. If one's serenity is at stake, then one must take action to protect it.

This does not mean that we withhold love from someone who is mean, unkind or not good for us. It means that we can physically detach from the situation for our own well-being while offering our love and prayers to the situation. It means that we respect the humanness and spirit of another in our hearts, yet we move on to preserve ourselves, for if we must constantly be vigilant to protect ourselves, we render ourselves ineffective in the world. We become untrue to who we truly are because we become focused on fear, security and survival instead of living up to our higher potential.

Reference:

de Mello, A. (1992). The Way To Love: The Last Meditations of Anthony de Mello, Image Books/Doubleday, New York.

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November 25,2013
Balance

We can keep going and going and going and going like that pink Energizer bunny, but eventually, our batteries run down, and then we need to regenerate. We need to take care of ourselves by having balance in our lives. Working until we run down our batteries isn't good for anyone. We threaten our health, our serenity and our relationships when we deplete our energy. It's important every day to take time to rejuvenate by meditating, praying, exercising, journaling, talking to a trusted friend or resting.

Whatever activities keep you connected to your source, make time for them on a regular basis. They are the priority and not the activities that we keep working at. When we are in balance, we have the ability to prioritize, hear divine guidance, and eliminate things that are a waste of time.

© Carla Weaver 2013


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November 13,2013
You Already Know

Often, we struggle with decisions or solutions to problems, not making the decision or not moving forward when we really do know the solution. Our inner voice knows. Our intuition is guiding us. Yet, sometimes, we question that voice. Maybe it is telling us to do something that doesn't seem logical or mainstream or what someone else is telling us to do. Maybe it seems a bit scary to make that decision. Maybe it is more than just a bit scary and will require a great leap of faith. However, always, when we follow our intuition, we are doing the right thing. It is just hard sometimes to see that it is the right thing because we cannot see the future.

Some people have a well-developed connection to their intuitive voice and they know what it is telling them. For those of us who have not always listened to our intuitive voices, we may doubt them because we are inexperienced at following the advice. But, if we listen carefully, we will become attuned to our inner voices and be able to distinguish them from other random thoughts, indecisiveness and worry.

© Carla Weaver 2013


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November 06,2013
A Range of Possibilities in Life and Art

I often read from "The Artist's Soul" by Linda Coons for guidance and inspiration. This morning, I read:

"Art is not a confined or narrowly defined concept. It is a wide-open range of possibilities each of us defines as we uniquely feel it and express it. In giving art our own definition and form, we demonstrate our choices by our expression (Coons, 2000, p. 427)."

As the passage says, art is a range of possibilities. As artists, we can express ourselves in infinite ways by making a series of decisions about what to say or not say in our work, just like in life. "We demonstrate our choice by our expression."

We need only attend an art class or a life drawing session to see how each artist in the group sees the model's pose or the art exercise in his or her own unique way, making decisions about size, color, composition, emphasis, line and form to inspire a unique work.

This is what each of us does with our own lives. We make a series of decisions or choices every day to live our own unique expressions. We have infinite possibilities. Sometimes, we make those choices haphazardly without regard for consequences. I sometimes think that if we considered each life decision with the love and care that we employ in deciding what color to paint the sky or the fence, the world would be a much better place.

Reference:

Coons, Linda. (2000). The Artist's Soul, Jeremy P. Tarcher/Putnam, New York, NY.

© Carla Weaver, 2013.


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November 03,2013
Show Appreciation

I am a believer in angels and I have several decks of angel cards that I consult regularly. Several times lately, I have drawn the card that's message is "show appreciation," and it reminds me to be appreciative of others for all of the kind things that they do. It is important to acknowledge others with gratitude, yet so often, we forget.

It is easy for us to focus on our problems or things that we don't have rather than on what's going well or what we do have. So much of our culture is set up to point out what we don't have, and to appeal to our insecurities through advertising, so we need to be extra diligent to remind ourselves to be grateful for the blessings in our lives.

"Thought for the Day

This moment gives birth to the next. If I fill this moment with gratitude, the next moment can't help but bring blessings.

Just for today I will smile …. I will be grateful for what I have instead of concentrating on what I don't have (Al-Anon Family Groups, 2002, p. 23)."

Reference:

Al-Anon Family Groups. (2002). Hope for Today, Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Virginia Beach, VA.

© Carla Weaver 2013


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