June 27,2014
Archangel of Justice and Fairness

I have often written that I make regular use of angel cards. I have several sets of Doreen Virtue's angel cards, and I consult them daily. It is amazing how the cards turn up to address what's on my mind. Just a couple of days ago, I posted a long BLOG about fairness, which was prompted by two or three recent situations in my life that I considered to be unfair. This morning, I turned up an angel card describing Archangel Raguel, The Archangel of Justice and Fairness. I was pleased and comforted to read that there's an angel flying around out there who helps with fairness. I bet he's one busy angel and an archangel, no less! According to Doreen Virtue, Archangel Raguel focuses on relationship harmony and making people open to resolution of conflict. We need only ask for his help. It can't hurt to ask, I say. Asking for the help of Archangel Raguel to resolve conflicts or help with justice and fairness seems like a better solution than obsessing about the unfairness of a situation.

The angel card also recommends visualizing all people involved cooperating and being open to resolving the situation. I usually try to visualize people surrounded by white light. Visualizing is a powerful tool to help us create or manifest positive experiences in our lives. It is one of the main tools talked about in "The Secret," the well-known book by Rhonda Byrne about prosperity and abundance, and it was written about by Shakti Gawain in her book "Creative Visualization." Visualizing about and praying for a positive and just outcome to situations is a healthy way to resolve them.

References:

Byrne, R. (2006). The Secret, Atria Books.
Gawain, S. (2009). Creative Visualization, New World Library.
Virtue, D. (2004). Archangel Oracle Cards, Hay House, Inc.

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June 22,2014
Nobody said that life would be fair.

Nobody said that life would be fair. How many times have we heard a similar phrase, and yet, it hurts and angers us when we are treated unfairly?

In everything that I do, I try to be fair. That's important to me – to apply rules or practices or behaviors fairly. I teach and have run my own business for many years. In these affairs, I endeavor to treat students and clients equally and fairly because I think that's very important.

It seems that many people believe that laws or rules don't apply to them – that they are somehow entitled to special treatment. I do not believe that I or anyone is more special than anyone else. We are all God's children. I believe that we can take actions on our own behalf to merit special awards or promotions or financial compensations based on our performance. But, we are all special in the eyes of God or the Universe and rules apply to everyone equally. The main rule in life is the one referred to as the Golden Rule, which involves treating others as we would like to be treated ourselves. For me, fairness is part of that.

This week, as I was pondering the unfairness of a situation, I asked myself: What is fair? What does it really mean when something is fair? I found in my Merriam Webster's Deluxe Dictionary, that they have actually dedicated a sidebar to the word "fair." They list several words with similar meaning: "just, equitable, impartial, unbiased, dispassionate and objective." (p. 657).

Fair is defined as "an elimination of one's own feelings, prejudices and desires so as to achieve a proper balance of conflicting interests (a fair decision)." (p. 657).

The sidebar explains that impartial and unbiased mean "an absence of favor or prejudice," (p. 657) and that objective and dispassionate mean that we set aside our feelings and emotions to make fair decisions. This is difficult because we are humans with feelings, emotions and prejudices. But, to be fair, we must set these aside and treat everyone the same. The standards, rules, criteria or laws for making decisions must be applied equally to all. That is why the world is not fair. Many people are not able to approach decision making with an equitable unbiased and unemotional application. Their prejudices related to anything including race, religion, gender, sexual orientation or nationality, creep into their decisions. Emotions and feelings creep into decision making – whether a decision maker likes one person better than others, or whether someone is holding a grudge, or whether someone just gets caught up in a moment of emotion related to a situation all affect fairness in decisions.

As I continued to ponder how it is almost impossible for the world to be truly fair because of the imperfection of people who make decisions, I wondered how this all balances out in life and it came to me that we live in both spiritual and physical worlds. In our physical world that is often driven by egos, where some people may not even try to make fair decisions – where there are even situations of intentional corruption – we cannot expect fairness. Companies, organizations, governments and families may make rules or laws or set criteria for awarding rewards with the best intentions in mind, but human failings will inevitably intercede and outcomes may not be fair.

I do, however, believe that the spiritual world takes care of these imbalances. I believe that people have consciences and on some level they know when they have been unfair or unjust, or unreasonable, and they will remember or realize these situations as they evolve spiritually and the Universe will provide them with opportunities to make amends for past behavior and change how they act in the present and future.

Maybe some will never realize on their own how their decisions or behaviors have impacted others, but the universe will continue to provide them with opportunities to learn. I also believe in the idea of a judgement day of some kind when a person is presented with some type of life review or meeting with God so they can see how their actions have impacted others. So, when I feel hurt or angry that I have been treated unfairly, I try now to practice patience and forgiveness and to remember that we are spiritual beings living in a physical world This is not always easy, but it is more comforting than dwelling on an imperfect situation. Life is not always fair.

Do I think that corruption and unfairness are acceptable? Absolutely not. And, the very fact that governments, companies and organizations set rules and criteria for making equitable decisions and for protecting people from discrimination and harassment says that our society stands for fairness. Each of us should do all that we can to treat our pets, children, spouses and other family members with kindness and fairness, to eliminate prejudices and favoritism in our lives, and to make decisions in our work places or organizations where we are members and volunteers as fairly as possible. When there are rules, we should do our best to enforce and abide by them. When there are decision making criteria, we should apply them to our decisions. When we know that we are biased, we should abstain from voting or participating in decisions. Each of us has the power to contribute to fairness.

Reference:

Merriam-Webster, Incorporated (1998). Merriam Webster`s Deluxe Dictionary, The Reader`s Digest Association, Inc. Pleasantville, NY.

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June 22,2014
Feeling Powerless

In many areas of our lives, we have direct control over things that affect us and we can take action to ensure that things affect us according to our own design. But, in other areas of our lives, we have absolutely no control. When we are out of control or powerless over a situation or have done all we can and must simply allow things to unfold according to God or the Universe, it is frustrating. How do we get through those times of powerlessness?

First, we can review whether we have taken all appropriate actions and, if we have, we must simply let go.

When I say "appropriate actions," I mean have we taken all reasonable steps without overstepping someone else's authority, crossing others' boundaries, stepping out of the chain of command, minding someone else's business, nagging, or being obnoxious? These are not appropriate actions.

If we have done what we can, then we must allow the situation to unfold. And, it will unfold, but in its own time. So, we must practice patience, trust and faith while we wait.

During this time of waiting, we can pray for the right outcome. We can meditate and listen for guidance from the Universe; we can tell ourselves firmly to "stop" if worry creeps into our thoughts, or we can use a slogan, such as "let go and let God," or "Just for today, I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle my whole life problem at once." (Holmes) Or, we can take a walk in nature to distract ourselves and think healthier thoughts.

References:

Holmes, Kenneth L. Just for Today, retrieved on June 22, 2014 from http://www.nhal-anon.org/Just4Today.html

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June 22,2014
Play

I do not think that I have ever seen anyone who plays as much as my dog Paco does. He plays from morning until night. I have to hide the toys to get a rest from the constant games. Surely the Universe sent me this dog to teach me how to play and have fun because I can take life far too seriously and work far too intensely. Paco brings me balance and much joy.

I am taking it easy this week after a period of intense stress and work, so I am spending more time playing with Paco. All of us must find time in our schedules for play, whether it is painting, making music, playing with our children or pets, singing, telling jokes or playing golf or tennis. Whatever your preference, make time to play. It relieves stress, often provides physical exercise, depending on the activity, and as the saying goes, "laughter is the best medicine." (author unknown)

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June 22,2014
Turn On One Light at a Time

We can carry a message of peace, light and love wherever we go, but that does not mean that the message is always heard or understood. Some are too distracted by their own problems, issues or self-centredness to hear it. Some are not ready to hear it. Some are too resentful or angry to hear it. Some are too damaged to hear it. But that does not mean that we give up on our message. No. It means that we must continue to carry it and when they are ready, others hear it; they understand it; they reflect on it; and, then, they, too, carry it.

One light comes on at a time until the building is filled with light.

Thoreau said,

"If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours." (Henry David Thoreau)

If your message is one of trying to influence change or bring attention to an issue, it can take a long time to see a result. We carry the message, but we do not see that anyone is hearing it or acting on it and that is all we can do. You can tell people to care for the environment, or be kind to each other, or to be kind to animals, but you can't make them do it.

Do not be discouraged when you feel that your message is not heard. When you enter a dark building at night, you do not get angry that the lights are out. You simply walk through it and turn each light switch as you enter a new room. This is how we must carry our messages of peace, love, light, honesty and integrity as we go through life.

Reference:

Retrieved on June 22, 2014 from http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/authors/h/henry_david_thoreau.html#eTtTw8O8TTUzj4Sm.99

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June 10,2014
Everything is in Divine Order

It's hard not to worry sometimes. Even though I know that worrying is a destructive habit, I find myself worrying when I know that have no control over the outcome of a situation in which the outcome is important to me. For example, if there is something bothering a family member, I worry. Or, if a decision is out of my hands, but affects me directly, I worry.

When worrying thoughts arise, I have learned now to say to myself, "Everything is in Divine Order," and to remind myself that things happen in God's time. If I have no control over the outcome of a situation, I might as well get on with the other things on my agenda and leave it to Divine Order.

Another tool that I use to leave things to Divine Order is angel cards. I find that the angel cards can provide comfort at a time when I can't push the worries away. In fact, it was the angel cards that gave me the idea for that little slogan, "Everything is in Divine Order."

Other tools that can help us to stop worrying are prayer, meditation and exercise. When we start to worry, we can choose to pray about the situation, meditate and wait for the answer or outcome, or exercise to get our minds off the situation. We can breathe deeply.

When worries arise, we can also say to ourselves "STOP!" and then change our thoughts to something else.

Doreen Virtue's angel cards say, "Everything is how it needs to be right now. Look past the illusion, and see underlying order (Virtue, 2004, p. 37).

Reference:

Virtue, D. (2004). Guidebook for the Archangel Oracle Cards, Hay House.

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